I said 'Yes' to the one who the Universe chose to be my husband. I say the Universe because we both come from almost completely different backgrounds. I have been fortunate enough to know in my heart straight away that he is the one for me. We didn't have an easy road to be together but love prevailed and, on his birthday 10 years ago, our journey officially started.
I didn't know what would happen, how our life is going to be and all I wanted was to live each day at a time and enjoy the present. I've tried to 'think' with my heart, rather than my 'brain' and this is what has made it for me.
I write this now and I think of our journey together and I feel so grateful for what I've been given. We both committed to each other and we knew from the very beginning that we are in this together, we have to learn together, to help each other, support each other, and respect each other. We learned to accept our faults and to work around them. We learned to give each other space and respect our individuality. And in time we became best friends and partners.
A while ago I took part in some sort of a personal development workshop and we had to answer a few questions about our relationship. These are a few of the answers I wrote down and I thought today would be a good day to share them...
Do we argue? Of course, but not much and we don't raise voices at each other (ok, maybe I do sometimes but very, very rarely), and then we thoroughly discuss the situation and draw a line in order to calm down. And this open communication played a huge part in our relationship. We've learned to be completely open, honest with each other and to trust each other no matter what. It didn't happen overnight, but this was a process we've developed along the way and I think we're pretty good at communicating with each other now.
What would you say to a young couple? We all have our own different journey in life but I would tell them: have patience with each other, respect each other and make sure you laugh each day. One thing we do each day is laugh; there is not one single day (no matter how gloomy it may be inside or out) that we don't find something to laugh about.
Would I change anything? Absolutely not. I've never asked for the perfect relationship and I got it. I never thought it would be possible to be so happy with someone, to be so in tune with each other, and to be so in love with each other even after so many years.
Do you get on each other's nerves? Not much, and that's because we've learned what to do not to annoy each other. For example, he never stays in the kitchen when I cook. That's because he knows I get annoyed if I see him cleaning the kitchen while I cook. Now, I'm forever grateful for the fact that I never have to wash dishes or clean the house (yes, I'm that lucky), but when I'm in the kitchen cooking, I like to have a bit of a mess (yes, I'm that weird).
Is our love as strong as it was when we've married? Oh, it is so much stronger. Partly, this strength comes from all the ups and downs we've been together, from the beautiful moments we've created along the way, from the blessings we've had which we never took from granted.
I have no idea what will happen in future and frankly, I don't care. I want to carry on enjoying the present and having fun with the guy who makes my world turn, my best friend and beautiful soulmate...